Recently we have launched our new Pop Up Cafés to offer a friendly place out in the community to pop along and find others who may have been through a similar bereavement. Come and join us for a cuppa and a piece of cake - all are welcome!
The purpose of the Good Grief Pop Up Café is to offer an umbrella of support in local communities and raise awareness of our online database which unite bereavement services across the country. We provide both the bereaved and bereavement specialists, a way to connect with their local communities and by sharing stories, can hopefully help each other find a way forward.
VIRTUAL GOOD GRIEF CAFES
We are delighted to announce that we will be launching our Virtual Good Grief Pop Up Cafes online as of next week - w/c 6th April.
Due to the current lock-down, we unable to open our actual umbrellas out in the community and set up our usual Pop Up Cafes. We are therefore determined to bring the bereaved together to have a cup of tea in their own homes and a chat with others online and hopefully we will help them to feel less alone.
Our new Resource Pack is now available to order for all Cafe organisers and volunteers.
Inside each Pack is a selection of goodies so you can run your own event and choose when and where the Cafe will open. You may choose to run the Cafe on a regular basis, and/or for one off events to promote a local service, or act as a fundraiser for your own organisation.
Open our branded Good Grief umbrella, with it's lightweight portable base and decorate your venue with our bunting and balloons. Give out stickers and our Good Grief cards to your attendees and we will supply you with a number of empty belly posters to advertise your event.
Please email us if you are interested in ordering a pack (£65) and joining our mailing list and we will send you full details with a set up guide. Hello@nullthegoodgrieftrust.org
Thank you for helping to support your community through their grief.
POP UP CAFE CALENDAR 2019
Bringing the Community Together
Our next Pop Up Cafes will be held in:
Venue: Mercato Metropolitano, 42 Newington Causeway, London SE1 6DR Saturday 16th March - 2pm - 4.30pmDrop in - pop by for a cup of tea, delicious Italian coffee & cake
Saturday 20th April - 2pm - 4.30pm - (Easter Egg Hunt)Drop in - if you would like to take part in our Easter Egg Hunt, please book a place email@example.com
Monday October 21st - 2pm - 4pmMercato Metropolitano - Good Grief Cookery Class & CafeWe have another of our very popular Good Grief Cookery Classes & Pop Up Cafe planned for October 21st, to be held in Mercato Metropolitano. This market is full of stalls selling delicious Italian treats, it has live music and lots of interesting and tasty Italian foodie places to try. It's also got a fab little back street cinema as well.We had one of these really successful meet ups a while back, with about 15 of us all around the kitchen table, chatting and elbow deep in flour!....so we are going to be running our monthly Good Grief Cafes again in the run up to Christmas at this fantastic Italian market near Waterloo station in Central London.We have a brilliant Italian chef who is going to help us make fresh pizzas from scratch, then we eat them! What's not to like?The FREE 1 hour Cookery Class will include your pizza to eat afterwards! - children welcome. Only 15 places available.Teas/coffees and pastries are FREE as well for anyone who fancies popping into our Cafe for a lovely fun few hours chatting with some very friendly people who get it. We just ask for a donation on the day to help our work, if this is something you can help us with, we would be very grateful. Thankyou.We'll have activities for the children too.We really hope you can make it! Combine it with a trip into London, it'll be a lovely way to meet others who understand and who want to find a new network of people who have been through a similar loss.To book, please RSVP by emailing Sian or Helen at firstname.lastname@example.org to confirm your place.See you there!
Café run by My Sister’s House, the only women’s centre in West Sussex, My Sisters’ House is a grassroots organisation set up in August 2014 by a group of local women. Embedded in the Bognor Regis community, we work across the coastal area of West Sussex. They provide a wide range of support needs to women from all backgrounds facing all kinds of issues where their strengths are recognised, their difficulties acknowledged and where they can achieve positive change they are proud of. They are delighted to join the Good Grief Pop Up café initiative and look forward to welcoming any women who feels they need to share their grief and loss with like-minded women. Their kitchen table ethos matches this initiative perfectly where informal support, tea & talk work works wonders.
- Sunday 10 November 2019 between 2-4pm
- Sunday 8 December 2019 between 2-4pm
- Sunday 12 January between 2-4pm
- Sunday 9 February between 2-4pm
- Sunday 8 March between 2-4pm
Venue: Option Ve - Vegetarian and vegan 108 Mayfield Grove, Harrogate, HG1 5EY Friday 8th November 3pm until 5pm. Thereafter first Friday in the month 3pm until 5pmWe are launching a monthly Pop Up Café to offer a friendly place out in the community to pop along and find others who may have been through a similar bereavement. Come and join us for a cuppa and a piece of cake - all are welcome! Parking: either in surrounding streets 2 hrs with parking disk or 5 mins walk away near Grove Road Primary School
Venue: God's Providence House,
12 St Thomas' St,
Newport Isle of Wight PO30 1SL
The first Pop Up Cafe will take place on:
- Wednesday 11th September 2019 between 2.30pm and 4pm
- Wednesday 2nd October between 2.30pm and 4pm
- Wednesday 13th November between 2.30pm and 4pm
- Wednesday 11th December between 2.30pm and 4pm
Venue: Green Room,
Ventnor PO38 1EJ
The Pop Up Cafe will take place on:
- Thursday 3rd October 2019 between 2.30pm and 4pm
- Thursday 7th November between 2.30pm and 4pm
Drop-in Community Café,
West Wight Sports and Community Centre,
- Tuesday 26th November 10 - 12.30
Monkton Arts and Lounge Coffee Bar,
The Pop Up Cafe will take place on:
- Thursday November 7th 11.30 - 3.30
- Thursday December 5th 11.30 - 3.30
Pop Up Cafe St Mary's Hospital Newport
The Pop Up Cafe will take place on Monday December 16th 9.30 - 11.30. Please join us at St Mary's Hospital in the Conference Room upstairs by the main Restaurant. This will be the Launch of The Good Grief Trust Cards and Information in the Isle of Wight NHS Trust. There will be a short Memorial Service in the Hospital Chapel after. There will also be cards to write the name of Loved Ones and Tea Lights to light for Remembrance. Tea and Coffee will also be available.
We held our first Pop Up Cafe at this fabulous central London Italian indoor outdoor market. Over 20 people came along, with and without their children who were at all different stages of their grief. We ate cake, dunked delicious Italian biscotti and even made pasta together in a brilliant Cookery Class.
It was a relaxed few hours spent in the company of others who 'get it'. The warmth, understanding and empathy everyone had for each other was just really lovely to be part of........we hope you will join us soon x
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24 HOUR SUPPORT LINES
|Samaritans||116 123 (UK)||For anyone at anytime for any reason|
|Childline||0800 1111||Support for under 25yrs and their relatives|
|Silverline||0800 470 8090||Support for the over 50's|
DAY/EVENING SUPPORT LINES
|Cruse||0808 808 1677||Nationwide bereavement support|
|Child Bereavement UK||0800 02 88840||Helpline (9 - 5pm)|
|Child Death Helpline||0800 282 986|
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|Every evening 7-10pm|
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|Grief Talk||0808 802 0111||Support for anyone to Grieftalk from any phone for free|
Monday to Friday 9am - 9pm
Have a 1-2-1 CHAT live session with a Grieftalk counsellor
|Bereavement Advice Centre||0800 634 9494||Practical advice (9 - 5pm)|
|Bereavement Trust||0800 435 455||Emotional and practical advice (6 - 10pm)|
|DrugFam||0300 888 3853||Drug and Alcohol addiction |
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|Sands||0808 164 3332||9.30am - 5.30pm Mon to Fri and 9.30am - 9.30pm Tues and Thurs evenings|
Free confidential helpline for anyone affected by the death of a baby.
|Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide||0300 111 5065||9am-9pm every day|
|Breathing space Scotland Helpline for when it becomes difficult to cope||0800 838587|
Monday to Thursday - 6pm - 2am
Friday 6pm - 6am
|The Compassionate Friends||0345 123 2304|
Open every day 10 am – 4 pm, 7-10 pm
|The Lullaby Trust||0808 802 6868|
Monday - Friday, 10 am – 5 pm
|The Greater Manchester Suicide Bereavement Information Service||0161 983 0700||Open Monday – Friday, 10am-4pm|
The Good Grief Project-The Good Grief Project offer nuggets of hope and comfort for the newly bereaved
Bereaved Parent Support Day- Support days for anyone who has lost a child at any age
Royal College of Psychiatrists - Information about feelings immediately after a bereavement
Marie Curie Wellbeing Advice- Some practical advice on looking after yourself immediately after the death of a loved one
Sue Ryder Online Community - is an online peer support service where bereaved people can exchange messages, share their feelings and support each other. It is monitored and moderated by Sue Ryder to ensure it remains a safe and supportive environment. It is available to any bereaved person aged 18 or over.
Find local support
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Our funding has been drastically cut due to events being cancelled.
It is VITAL that we ensure anyone bereaved during this crisis is signposted to a choice of IMMEDIATE support for their grief.
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