We offer our heartfelt condolences to anyone who has suffered a bereavement through the Coronavirus, or under any circumstance during these uncertain and disturbing times. We want you to know that you're not alone and we will try our best to guide you in the right direction.
All of us at The Good Grief Trust have lost someone close, so we want to help you find the support you need as quickly as possible.
This is our new page to bring you updates on the crisis and signpost you to the charities, support services and helplines that offer dedicated advice and information. We are so sorry that you are here, but we hope this advice helps you.
BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT HELPLINES
10am - 4pm - Monday to Friday
From day one, onwards
We help when someone has died suddenly, or too soon in their life, because of
- a sudden medical reason (including COVID-19), or terminal illness
- injuries, caused by something that happened
We help people most in the early days and weeks, but call us any time
7am - 10pm - 7days a week
We are in unprecedented times and the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic has resulted in a worrying and anxious time for many people. This is particularly true, for those whose loved ones have died or are ill in hospital or other care settings and for key workers and NHS staff who continue to work and provide essential services.
Our purpose is to provide a helpline for all individuals seeking information, advice and support.
USEFUL LINKS - DEDICATED SUPPORT FOR THE BEREAVED DURING THE CORONAVIRUS CRISIS
To Wish Upon A Star - Helpline; 01443 853 125
Supporting sudden death in children and young adults
The Compassionate Friends - Support for bereaved parents
SUDCUK - Support for sudden unexpected death in a child 1-18yrs
Call 001 973 795 1257 (1.30pm-9.30pm Mon-Fri)
Sue Ryder - online counselling support
Looking after yourself following a suicide during this pandemic
USEFUL LINKS - DEDICATED SUPPORT FOR THE BEREAVED DURING THE CORONAVIRUS CRISIS
We operate an advice line service providing support to any adult concerned about a bereaved child/young person. The operating times are Monday, Tuesday and Friday 10am-1pm (excluding bank holidays).
Advice line number is 07867 372711
SUPPORT FOR CHILDREN DURING THE CORONAVIRUS CRISIS
Childhood Bereavement Network - Supporting Grieving Children during the outbreak
Helping Children Grieve during the Coronavirus crisis - Irish Hospice Foundation
How to say goodbye when a funeral isn't possible - Winston's Wish
Child Bereavement UK - Guidance on talking to bereaved children
Child Bereavement UK’s website has guidance for families and professionals created in response to Covid-19, including short guidance films and information sheets on supporting children through difficult times, advice for when you are unable to visit someone who is ill and information for schools on supporting bereaved pupils www.childbereavementuk.org The charity’s Helpline is operating as normal: 0800 02 888 40 (Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm) or email: firstname.lastname@example.org. For LiveChat visit the website.
This is a short film made by The Belfast Trust to explain the complexities of a bereavement during the crisis. This may alleviate some of the fear and confusion they may face after losing someone they love.
Under the current restrictions enforced by the Government during the Corona crisis, funerals and cremations may be disrupted or delayed. The number of family members permitted to attend a funeral has been limited. Many people who are grieving the death of someone close may be in isolation and unable to attend funerals. This will clearly cause a great deal of upset and will be distressing. We hope we can help you through these times with some suggestions and signposting to other organisations offering advice.
Thank you to Poppy's Funerals for offering updates on advice and guidance. 'One of the main challenges that we’re facing is the changing restrictions on what a funeral can look like. Every day, we’re responding to new rules issued by crematoria, hospitals and the church as well as updates to the official guidelines. There are questions like how many people can attend a funeral, how they can act once they get there and even whether it’s safe to sing'. Please click this link for their blog.
Please click this link for more general information on funerals;
The Quaker Social Action have some advice for organising a funeral during this crisis;
Please see this link for some suggestions from Mortlake Crematorium on managing a cremation under the new restrictions.; https://www.mortlakecrematorium.org/coronavirus/
Advice from Cruse; COPING IF YOU HAVE TO MISS A FUNERAL
- Ask the funeral director if the service can be recorded or live streamed
- Write or record a message to be played
- Set aside the time while the funeral is taking place to have your own memorial at home
- Ask someone who is attending to call you afterwards
- Hold your own memorial at a later date when the restrictions are lifted
- Contact the Cruse Freephone National Helpline 0808 808 1677
GRIEVING IN ISOLATION
Please see these links below for advice on feeling isolated through your grief, which may be compounded because of the current guidance for us all to Stay at Home.
There are many virtual ways of connecting with friends and family during these weeks and months ahead.
Click here to find out more about our VIRTUAL GOOD GRIEF CAFES. This new online support service offers the bereaved a chance to meet others who are grieving in their own homes, via Zoom. We hope that these regular meet ups will provide vital connection during this crisis and the benefit of peer support with others who understand.
Virtual Connections and Support
We recommend you go online and try to find a group that may help you.
- Whatsapp groups are being formed with family and friends talking virtually to each other to keep a check on the well being of others in their network.
- Facetime is available for face to face chats online.
- Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are all excellent ways of connecting with others.
- Social Media; Please see our own social media platforms to talk, share and message other people who are bereaved at this time.
Cruse Bereavement Care: https://www.cruse.org.uk/coronavirus/grieving-and-isolation
VIRTUAL GOOD GRIEF CAFES - ONLINE SUPPORT GROUPS
Regular Weekly Sunday /Wednesday/Friday Virtual Cafes - 12 noon - 1pm
The Good Grief Trust have adapted their Pop Up Cafes, to open new online face to face support groups. Offering a virtual hug over a cup of tea in your own home. You are most welcome to pop along for a chat, stay as long as you would like, or sit in and say nothing, but just listen, whatever feels right for you is fine.
These Cafes are safe, closed meeting places run via Zoom. You will be sent a password and login details.
We want to make you feel comfortable and able to open up about your grief with others who understand.
For more details on our Cafes; Good Grief Pop Up Cafes
Please book your place here Hello@nullthegoodgrieftrust.org
THINGS TO CONSIDER
RECORDING VOICE MAILS & SAVING PHOTOS
We urge you to consider thinking about recording messages from a mobile phone, or transferring and/or printing photos from a device before or soon after your relative or friend dies.
We have had many comments from the bereaved, to say how devastating it can be to find out that weeks after you lose someone you love, their voices have been erased from phones and precious photos are lost.
Please see our Things to Consider page for more general suggestions; https://www.thegoodgrieftrust.org/need-know-info/things-to-consider/
IF YOU ARE AFFECTED BY A TERMINAL ILLNESS
If you are affected by a terminal illness: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/coronavirus
Please see this link on Hospice UK for a comprehensive guide to advice and information on their work with the bereaved during the crisis.
ADVICE FROM JULIA SAMUEL MBE - PSYCHOTHERAPIST
MANAGING ANXIETY AND GRIEF DURING THE CORONAVIRUS CRISIS
Julia Samuel MBE is a psychotherapist specialising in grief, who has spent the last twenty-five years working with bereaved families.
The upheavals caused by the virus on day-to-day life — on our social lives, work routines, schools and childcare — are causing great anxiety, she says, exacerbated by the fact that there is no “template” for dealing with a pandemic. There is a general sense, she says, that “there’s no one in charge that we know is going to sort it. There’s no saviour.” Social media is only compounding anxiety. Rather than catastrophise about an unknown future, she recommends keeping plans on a short timeline: “Don’t project into weeks and months ahead, plan today.” New structures are important too: “We’re very habitual beings. The coffee that you buy, the route that you take, the clothes that you get, even the thoughts that you have down a particular street. You have them habitually as you get to the office. We have to create new structures and habits that give you a sense of agency and efficacy.”
Some of our usual coping mechanisms — alcohol, drugs, promiscuity or extreme busyness — are particularly unhelpful: “If you block pain, you block joy and the capacity to experience all feelings.” Instead, it’s healthier to acknowledge our difficult feelings, with support from friends and family, alongside exercise.
‘Grief Works’ is a compassionate book demonstrating how an examined death is as important as an examined life. It shows us through vivid case studies, that when we face our fears: the death of someone we love, our own death or being with bereaved friends, we are paradoxically, better able to cope with them.
Please see Our Library page for more suggestions for books which may help;
It is very important to look after your mental and physical health during this crisis, particularly if you are self-isolating and feeling alone.
Please see our Well Being Page for general advice and guidance and suggestions from Lee Pycroft, our Ambassador, which may help.
Important; please note that some of the videos on this page are pre the Coronavirus crisis and suggest going out into nature as a way of promoting well being. Under the current Government guidelines, please ensure that you are social distancing when taking exercise in the open air.
Advice on coping with your mental health during this crisis.
You might be worried about coronavirus (COVID-19) and how it could affect your life. This may include having to stay at home and avoid other people. Click here for advice from Mind;
Advice from Gov.uk
The coronavirus (COVID-19) outbreak is going to affect everyone’s daily lives, as the government and the NHS take necessary steps to manage the outbreak, reduce transmission and treat those who need medical attention.
Regardless of their age, this may be a difficult time for children and young people. Some may react right away, while others may show signs of difficulty later on.
LOOKING AFTER YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
Mental Health Foundation - General Information
Rethink Mental Illness - Great practical advice for those living with mental illness and those caring
for someone with a mental illness
Mental Health UK - How to have a conversation with youngsters about Covid-19
Mental Health UK - A selection of helpful blog posts
A lot of therapists are offering discounted rates to keyworkers during this time, so that is something
for people to explore.
NHS staff to have free access to wellbeing apps until the of 2020: Headspace, Unmind and Sleepio and Daylight
Royal College of Nursing - Advice to Nurses to protect their mental health
Mates in Mind - Homeworking Mental Health Tips
@rwl on Instagram are offering a free mindset course that you can access online.
@ImPaulMckenna on Twitter- Paul Mckenna has some mindfulness advice to cope during this time
There are lots of online exercise classes that are completely free, by exercising that will help release
endorphins which will in turn improve our mood. There are classes for Yoga, Dance classes to HIIT sessions.
You can also listen to a range of body scan meditations by searching for these on You tube,
completely for free. This is a very useful resource and can help if you are struggling to sleep due to
this anxiety inducing time.
KEEPING YOURSELF HEALTHY
Lots of interesting recipes and advice coming soon on how to keep yourself healthy during these challenging times.
YOGA AND MINDFULNESS
Thank you to teacher Claire Copersino for this article and suggestions for yoga positions to help after a bereavement. She is a yoga teacher in Greeport, New York. To learn more, visit northforkyogashala.com.
She says; 'during the course of all of our lives, we will inevitably experience grief that stops us in our tracks, both literally and metaphorically. When this happens, it can be tempting to distract ourselves instead of processing our emotions. But when we embark on a regular yoga practice, we begin to release the stuck, stagnant energy that results from unprocessed feelings. I designed this sequence to help you open your hips—a particularly potent area when it comes to unearthing and releasing stored emotions—and to help you turn your pain and grief into fearlessness and compassion'.
Yoga for Anxiety - 20 minute Practice - Yoga with Adriene
We have been recommended to share this Youtube channel to guide you through yoga moves to help with a bereavement
Grief Yoga - Healing Through an Ancient Art - Psychology Today
The Yoga poses that healed my pain
'I didn't know that grief commonly returns, that this was my body marking the anniversary of the death of my dad the year before. It was with this sadness that I arrived one day in October at a yoga studio, neither strong nor flexible, surrounded by people whose bodies seemed as lithe as dancers' (I've found out since that some of them are dancers)'
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24 HOUR SUPPORT LINES
|Samaritans||116 123 (UK)||For anyone at anytime for any reason|
|Childline||0800 1111||Support for 18yrs & under and their relatives|
|Silverline||0800 470 8090||Support for the over 50's|
DAY/EVENING SUPPORT LINES
|Sudden Bereavement Helpline||0800 121 6510||10am and 2pm, Monday to Friday - immediate support|
|National Bereavement Partnership Helpline||0800 448 0800||7am and 10pm for emotional support.|
|Cruse||0808 808 1677||Nationwide bereavement support|
|Cruse Bereavement Care Scotland||0845 600 2227||Thursday 8am-10pm and Friday 8am-4pm.|
|Child Bereavement UK||0800 02 88840||Helpline (9 - 5pm)|
|Child Death Helpline||0800 282 986|
0808 800 6019
|Every evening 7-10pm|
Mon/Thurs/Fri - 10am - 1pm
Tues/Wed - 10am - 4pm
|Grief Talk||0808 802 0111||Support for anyone to Grieftalk from any phone for free|
Monday to Friday 9am - 9pm
Have a 1-2-1 CHAT live session with a Grieftalk counsellor
|Bereavement Advice Centre||0800 634 9494||Practical advice (9 - 5pm)|
|Bereavement Trust||0800 435 455||Emotional and practical advice (6 - 10pm)|
|DrugFam||0300 888 3853||Drug and Alcohol addiction |
The helpline line is available between 9am and 9pm seven days a week.
|Sands||0808 164 3332||9.30am - 5.30pm Mon to Fri and 9.30am - 9.30pm Tues and Thurs evenings|
Free confidential helpline for anyone affected by the death of a baby.
|Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide||0300 111 5065||9am-9pm every day|
|Breathing space Scotland Helpline for when it becomes difficult to cope||0800 838587|
Monday to Thursday - 6pm - 2am
Friday 6pm - 6am
|The Compassionate Friends||0345 123 2304|
Open every day 10 am – 4 pm, 7-10 pm
|The Lullaby Trust||0808 802 6868|
Monday - Friday, 10 am – 5 pm
|The Greater Manchester Suicide Bereavement Information Service|
|0161 983 0700||Open Monday – Friday, 10am-4pm|
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It is VITAL that we ensure anyone bereaved during this crisis is signposted to a choice of IMMEDIATE support for their grief.