For young people

For young people

This is a page to help you.  Sometimes it can feel like you’re in this alone, but we’re here to prove that you’re not. Watch this short video, so you know what you can expect.

We want this to be a safe, lighthearted place where you can try and wrap your head around grief, in your own time at your own pace. Here you can watch videos, read blogs and listen to music from our selected playlists.

We have links that will take you to other helpful websites, whether you need a helpline or something to take your mind off things

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My Story

I was 15 years old when my dad died. He had a rare blood cancer and had been going through a stem cell transplant when he caught an infection.

Although he’d had cancer for a long time the infection meant he died in a matter of days. We’d never discussed what might happened if he didn’t survive, and I never had a chance to say goodbye.

My mum, younger brother and I have had to learn how to live life as a family of three, and how to be happy again.

How Childline can help you

Childline is there to help anyone up to their 19th birthday in the UK with any issue they’re going through. Whether it’s something big or small, there are trained counsellors ready to support you.

Childline is free, confidential and available any time, day or night. You can talk - during COVID19 crisis 9am - midnight on 121 chat and on the phone

If you are worried about anything and just need to talk to someone, they are on the end of the phone, just give them a call.

I started writing a blog because death can be incredibly hard to make sense of, writing it down helped me to process my grief and I hope it helps you too

Why did I write the poem?

Specifically, I wanted to design a book dedicated to children in need of support, my poem should represent a hand on their shoulder for young people that aren't in the right place.

I did not expect to tell my depth of life, but I will. Over the years, starting from age 10 my father passed. Everyone who's lost someone knows that spike of grief digging its way into your life, before you could even feel it starting. Overall, I learnt the hard way of living.

My mother herself struggled along with my older sister, it was hard to comfort one another but we stayed strong and will continue to push through till the end.

Over the months of grief and the deep feeling of desperation for recognition, therapy was my only option, and yet why did I still feel like this.

It even took me a while to change my mindset, which was needed.

Grief changes you. It always will and when it does, you can either let it take control of you or let it change you, for the better of our lives.

Grief comes with everything non comforting, shock, despair, suffering, anything that will ruin your day, but it also comes with grace. Grace isn't something to take for granted, the peace that connects everything back in its place. Everyone will find grace. You just have to let things change, even though we never want it to.

Mel Sky

Melody’s Poem - "For every child who’s struggled"

I was young once
I even used to dance until one day
I lose the chance

My mother said to me
And so, you see I am without my dad
No more stories, my life seems gloomy, My mothers
Sadness seemed so dooming.

Days go by and so I cry how long until this will all pass by?
My sadness is justified for my dad has just died.
I’m home from school, there was no fun, my friends try cheer me, but the grief has won. there is nothing wrong with that.
I’m only so grateful to say I still have my mum.
She calms me only with the sound of her hum. I love my mum
And although I don’t have my dad, life isn’t so bad sharing it with me and my mum.

I’m playing in the park, my dog jumps and barks, it’s just me and my mum
The walk home is cold
Most journeys are, the ups and downs, I wouldn’t say I’m proud.
But of my mum… I’d say it out loud.
She stands tall, next to her I’m holding her hand she looks at me smiling bland. I am here with me and my mum.
Our house is warm, no goose bumps or lousy brauls. I’m smiling, today was a good day. Over the months, I smile a lot more, my mum is too, and I am all for, to take each day at a time, is slow, but fine.
For I am happy with my mum and I.
Each journey at times is hard and rough, but give it some time, things will be fine.
And although I miss my dad, life isn’t so bad.
To never imagine just me and my mum, things are still tough, but I can still have fun.
The sadness stays for I am not to blame. The loss of my dad I am not the same.

Yeah, as time will heal, I can’t help but feel for I am proud of my mum, how far she’s come.
Losing her love, she fell apart but stayed strong.
I love my mum.

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How going back to school really helped me

Though scary, going back to school was really beneficial. Unlike home, nothing had changed and it was a place where I could continue my life as a “normal” teenager. It helped re-kick start my life when it had come to a stop.' 

'It’s taking the first step that’s hard, but in reality you’ve done the hardest bit already.’  

Top movies that deal with loss

the lion king

Bambi

Finding Nemo

Josh's friends talk about how they miss him - visit www.thegoodgriefproject.co.uk for more on Josh's story

Joe and Rosa talk about how losing their brother has affected them www.thegoodgriefproject.co.uk

Bear's Den - The Clouds of Pompeii

Ed Sheeran - SuperMarket Flowers

Bastille - Good Grief