Welcome to our page for those of you have been through a loss in later life. We hope this page offers you some comfort, information and support.
Please watch our films of others who have also suffered a bereavement and who may be able to give you some advice on what helped them to cope with their grief after they lost someone close. We have some book further down the page, which may be useful, or please visit Our Library for more suggestions.
There are links to other websites who offer befriending services and helplines which you may like to try. Please call Silverline if you just want to chat with a lovely volunteer at any time of day or night. They really are very kind and will hopefully help you to feel less isolated.
You may like to visit our Well Being page for some ideas on what helped others feel better.
If you are newly bereaved, visit these pages for important information which may help now.
Support for the ‘silver generation’
Losing my husband
The only thing that helped
Support for the ‘silver generation’
The Silver Line charity
Do you need to speak to someone now?
24 HOUR SUPPORT LINES
|Samaritans||116 123 (UK)||For anyone at anytime for any reason|
|Childline||0800 1111||Support for under 25yrs and their relatives|
|Silverline||0800 470 8090||Support for the over 50's|
DAY/EVENING SUPPORT LINES
|Cruse||0808 808 1677||Nationwide bereavement support|
|Child Bereavement UK||0800 02 88840||Helpline (9 - 5pm)|
|Child Death Helpline||0800 282 986
0808 800 6019
|Every evening 7-10pm
Mon/Thurs/Fri - 10am - 1pm
Tues/Wed - 10am - 4pm
|Bereavement Advice Centre||0800 634 9494||Practical advice (9 - 5pm)|
|Bereavement Trust||0800 435 455||Emotional and practical advice (6 - 10pm)|
|Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide||0300 111 5065||9am-9pm every day|
|Breathing space Scotland Helpline for when it becomes difficult to cope||0800 838587||
Monday to Thursday - 6pm - 2am
Friday 6pm - 6am
|Silverline||The only confidential, free helpline for older people across the UK. It is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week. You can arrange a weekly regular call from a friendly volunteer, email contact or receive a letter from someone who cares|
|Age UK||The country's largest charity dedicated to helping everyone make the most of later life|
|Samaritans||A safe place for you to talk any time you like, in your own way – about whatever’s getting to you|
|Independent Age||A befriending service, who will call regularly or you can arrange a home visit|
|Way Up||An active self help group aimed at providing mutual support to those widowed their 50's and 60's|
|The Compassionate Friends||Advice following the death of a grandchild|
Find local support
Rowan Williams-This book is hardly a preparation for grief – how could it be. But it is a helpful insight into what grief looks like from inside. That knowledge alone will help you avoid delivering the kind of crass statement, insensitive comment and crushing platitude that – even with the best intention, invariably only makes things worse.
Beyond Tomorrow- The essential Guide to life after bereavement
Judy Carole Kaufmann-The period following the death of a loved one can be a time of great turmoil. This sensitive book acts as a helpful and supportive road map through the initial period of loss, and through the weeks and months that follow.
Tips from widows
Jan Robinson-It is like a crib sheet of how to cope; it is as helpful to friends of widows as to the widows themselves, and it is written from experience, which is the bedrock of reliable advice
Peter Speck and Ian Ainsworth Smith- this book holds a central place within the pastoral literature for carers of the dying or bereaved. Since publication of the first edition, research and new multi-professional approaches to care require more than ever that those in ministry develop a good grasp of current understanding and models of grief
Living with Loss and Grief: Letting Go, Moving on (Overcoming Common Problems)
Julia Tugendhat-Grief and loss come in many different forms, from the searing pain when a loved one dies, to the necessary mourning for lost dreams and changed ideals at different life stages. After loss, people cannot be as they were before, but they can adapt to the changed circumstances and go on from there. This book looks at ways of grieving and the factors which help the grieving process.
Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas For Rebuilding Your Life
Genevieve Davis Ginsburg- widow, author, and therapist offers fellow widows-as well as their family and friends-sage advice for coping with the loss of a husband
A Grief Observed
C.S Lewis- writes a book that details his paralysing grief, bewilderment and sense of loss after the death of his wife. Invaluable as an insight into the grieving process
Why Not Me? A story of Love and Loss
Barbara Want-A ruthlessly honest dissection of a widow’s pain, both during her husband’s illness and after his death
Danny Abse-diary which is both a record of present grief and a portrait of a marriage that lasted more than fifty years
The Sisterhood of Widows by Mary Francis
The Sisterhood of Widows by Mary Francis is a compilation of short stories by 16 widows reflecting and commenting on life after losing their husbands
You’ll Get Over It by Virginia Ironside
Author Virginia Ironside talks about the complicated reactions of different people dealing with grief with great honesty and insight in You’ll Get Over It
A Widow’s Story by Joyce Carol Oates
‘My husband died, my life collapsed.’ A Widow’s Story is a heart-breaking account of grief, yet a beautiful read, written by widow Joyce Carol Oates
Grief Works by Julia Samuel
Grief works is a compassionate guide that will support, inform and engage anyone who is grieving. It also provides clear advice for those seeking to comfort the bereaved
The Orphaned Adult by Alexander Levy
Losing our parents is something we come to expect, but is still difficult to process when both are gone. Levy delves into these complex feelings in his book, The Orphaned Adult
Diary of a Grief by Peter Woods
After 53yrs of marriage, Peter Woods put pen to paper to gather his thoughts and make sense of his grief, thus Diary of a Grief was created
After You by Maryalicia Post
The first lines of Maryalicia’s book, After You, were written the night her husband died. She continued writing about the journey grief was taking her on for a year, forming a poem with her words.